Okay, so there's nothing truly deep about this thought, but I figured I'd share it anyway...
I have discovered an interesting phenomenon as I have delved into the world of internet communication. As I have become active with Facebook and blogging over the past year, I have been reconnected with numerous friends from my college days. The interesting truth, however, is that the friends I spent the most time with in college are the ones I seem to have the least communication with now. I have tended to converse - and have more in common with - people who I would have classed more as acquaintances when we parted ways all those years ago. They were people I had no problem spending time with, but we seemed to have only occasional circumstnaces which truly pulled us together - a class once or twice in our college carreer; a common table in the cafeteria as our usual dining partners trickled in and out; a mutual friend whose company we occasionally shared. But now they are the ones who share my values, my interests, my goals. They are the ones I seem to easily be able to identify with whereas the friends with whom I spent most of my time, the ones who shared my major and my class schedules, the ones I went through the ups and downs of college life with seem to be so far removed from the reality of my life today.
Who would have thought it possible? I certainly hoped that I would keep in touch with those people intimately throughout the years, but it didn't happen. Do I regret those friendships now? Do I wish I'd have invested more in friendships with some of these other people? To be honest, I'm not sure I would have changed anything. I was greatly blessed to know certain people then, and I'm equally blessed to get to know other people now. God puts friendships in our lives in the appropriate season, and it is a very exciting thing to leave that in His hands. I still love and pray for those old friends, and still chat with them as the opportunity and topic arise. But, all in all, I'm trusting the Lord to know what relationships I need here and now for my sake and theirs, for my growth and theirs. And I'm excited to see what His plan unfolds!
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I know what you mean! Joel has occasionally asked me "why are you still friends with her?" because I have so little in common (mainly in beliefs and attitudes) with some OBU friends. I'm glad for FB and blogging though. It's fun to reconnect with people and find out you have a lot more in common now than you did back then. Though the pictures are a little scary. The other day I asked Joel if we look as old as some of our friends do!! Alas, we do!!
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